Comments on: The Art of Criticizing a Blogging Buddy

By: jangeronimo

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:46:07 +0000

Thanks, Connie. I'm happy to tell you we've survived my presumptuousness.
My friend it turned out has a big heart. I'm so lucky. Big lesson for me,
this. :)

By: ConnieFoggles

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 12:33:39 +0000

Depends on how well you know your friend. If this is a close friend that you can confide in, some form of chat is best. If you are not close, as in someone you know through blog commenting, forums, etc. then an email may be the best route or some way of privately contacting them. I wouldn't go the comment route because it is really "calling that person out" publicly. That is hurtful to the friend/blogger's reputation. If you can't come to an agreement of some sort, or it all blows up, then best to just avoid the blog. If it that important to your value system, why put yourself in a position to feel betrayed or to feel dishonest?

By: jangeronimo

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 08:46:07 +0000

Thanks, Connie. I'm happy to tell you we've survived my presumptuousness.
My friend it turned out has a big heart. I'm so lucky. Big lesson for me,
this. :)

By: ConnieFoggles

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 06:33:39 +0000

By: yodz

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 11:29:57 +0000

Well, it's really tough but I believe there's always a nice way - or should I say a diplomatic way of expressing disagreement. It's sad I haven't learned that art yet. As I observe it, bloggers always tend to write comments to be agreeable - specially with a blog buddy.

By: yodz

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 09:29:57 +0000

By: jangeronimo

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 06:12:32 +0000

Very levelheaded of you, Ambo. Must be directly related to the personality of the blogger eh? If you're genial your interaction online tends to reflect that. If you've lot of unresolved issues with yourself and the world, that shows up in writing, too.

Will it help if I learn the culinary arts? Serving not only palatable but magnificent, mouth-watering posts is something to aspire for. Fair enough, Chef Ambo? Ahehehe.

By: jangeronimo

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 06:02:20 +0000

Hmmm. Your friend had his Aha moment. But just because he had a flash of insight does it necessarily follow he can deal with this insight now? Give him time. lols

What your friend said though is what's keeping me on an even keel in the blogosphere. He's spot on on that one. Hurray for him. :)

By: jangeronimo

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 05:54:21 +0000

I hear what you're saying, Trina. And it's true - it's a bit presumptuous of us to believe that whatever pops into our head is also right for the other person. There's no provision after all in every meaningful friendships and even ordinary online interaction between strangers to be unmitigated jerks.

Maybe there is. But that can't be a healthy relationship, right?

It occurs to me just now. This post is a note to my friends that it's all right to put me to task in the comment section of my blog. I just got sidetracked and put the point of view on the other person. Maybe another post when nothing else remotely interesting comes up? lols

By: ambo

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 04:49:16 +0000

Nice article Jan. I agree with DiTesco. We all have different opinions and views on a certain subject. It's well understood. In my case, i tend to be more kind when leaving comments. If there are things that need to be discussed and if its too personal, i would probably email him rather than posting all my rants against the person or post. But everyone of us has the right to post comments based on our thoughts, it's an opinion. As a blogger, we must expect how people would feel and interact on your post. It's different from personal attacks.