The art of criticizing a blogging buddy is a tough one to master. I’m totally clueless on this one so I need your help to sort this out.
If it’s a question of any other blogger you’ve just stumbled into online, this matter of leaving contrary view doesn’t matter at all, does it. You just do it and engage the author in the most lively but civil manner. Who gives in? Who appears victorious? These questions are not as relevant as the point that a fair exchange of ideas has taken place right in the blog itself.
But what if you find something objectionable in a friend’s post? Uh-oh. Anything can go wrong. You maybe talking about ideas, but your friend may misconstrue the style of your comment as an attack on his person.
- You leave a critical comment right on the comment section itself for all the blog author’s readers to see. He did all the heavy lifting all right, but should he be commended if he places the sofa in the bathroom and the dining table in the garage? Shouldn’t you have the right to tell him he’s out of his mind?
- You write the blog author an email about your objection(s). The thinking behind this is that he is your friend. If you care for him, you avoid raining on his parade. You do not embarrass him in his own house. What are blogging buddies for, right?
- You avoid risking conflict with your friend by talking about the minor but less contentious part of his writing. Perhaps you sweeten it up by talking about the weather. Or perhaps you’re Mr. Congeniality himself, saying “Woot” here and sprinkling your comments with smilies to cheer him up.
So, my questions to you: which is the saner approach? Which path will you choose if you’re criticizing a friend? Does a friend have special privilege when you feel he’s wrong on his posts? Do you wear kid gloves to spare his feelings? Or is everything fair game to you when it comes to voicing your opinions?
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